He sings the songs that remind him of the good times, He sings the songs that remind him of the better times.

 


Acronyms of the day- BMD - Before Mark Died GSG - Game store guy AKA Bossman


Sitting here working on my room and I had to stop for a minute and reflect.  Had a FANTASTIC weekend.  And Sunday/Monday were awesome.


Things are changing around me and for me.  It’s nice  because my life today doesn’t  look like my life did BMD.  And that really helps me to not think about it as often.


So here are some short ADHD friendly updates.


  1. I went with Loki to an amazing concert and we rocked out to some 90s music.  I was VERY proud of myself that I stood in the crowd and didn’t just hide in the VIP+ room the whole time.   Yes VIP+ cause I like air-conditioning and good food oh and nice parking.

  2. I went to Rockman’s and he left me by myself in the morning to take his car to the shop.  I also turned on his TV myself and played video games over there while he worked.   It was pretty cool.  The biggest accomplishment was that I drove Rockman THRU KALAMAZOO to go get his car.   Driving with a dude in the front seat is a huge trigger for me (More stories later) but it went really well.   I have now driven a few guys and you’re going to be shocked to hear this but did you know that you can get a ride from someone and not cuss at them or yell.  Or get pissed off so badly at other drivers that you just completely ICE the driver with uncomfortable stone silence?   Yes that’s a true thing  that can happen.

  3. Last night a man wept in  my arms.  Legit wept like a hurt child.  He was thinking of his father who passed away a bit ago.  He cried and I cried and it was just a good cry.  WOOSAH.

  4. On the topic of not everything is AWESOME.   I faced facts that one of my best guy friends is in fact that.  A friend.  And that sucks big time.  I cried pretty hard about it and could cry now thinking about it.   He helped me so much when all the mark stuff happened.  He was there for me BEYOND anything I could ever have asked for he has taught me a lot about a LOT of things.  I hope that GSG and I can still be friends.  And I mean that LEGIT not like girls who are like “It’s not you it’s me…. But we can still be friends.”

  5. I don't understand why I feel the way I feel about people. But Rockman did say something that really hit me and guess what he's not the first person to say this to me. In fact Hannah, GSG, Loki, and many more have said this so I am going to say it. "Erica your boundaries are to permeable." And to him I said "What boundaries!?" I know I know... I need better boundaries for myself but i'm working on it. Isn't it a good step that I can at least ADMIT I don't have strong boundaries?


Yes yes I know I need more therapy but it is what it is for today. Know better, do better.



Ok I have distracted myself from working on my room long enough.  That has to be the end of it for this post it’s already FAR FAR to long.  

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