Today - Growth

 Today I did a few things that were very difficult for me:


1 I drove someone around in my car.  My car is close quarters and I have a LOT of bad memories of driving The Man everywhere.  Oh my gosh the tension I have just worrying about what everyone around me is going to do, and how that might piss off my passenger is something that shocks the shiz out of me!


2. I got on marks computer and I am downloading  a game to play during break.   It is very weird just the sound of the fan of his computer takes me back but it's MY computer now and I shall put it to good use!


3. I took a super duper long nap and I still could sleep more.  I think my brain is readjusting and relaxing after a few days of feelings!


4. I still need to fix the bedroom up the way I want it but it's so spacious without a couch.  I like being able to just spread out and move around and have my own space.


Ok that's it for now.

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