What's real

 If I am dreaming when will I wake up?    When I wake up will Mark be there?


The last week has felt so much like a dream I am sitting here looking in the mirror and just trying to piece which dreams were real and which things really happened.


My dreams lately have been so realistic that I need like a safe word to help myself understand I am awake and this is reality.


Like was I really in a different room most of the week?


Even just the shipt shopping I have been doing…. Like Erica Foster doesn't grocery shop…. But here I am killing it.



Even last night Loki and I had a double date in Hastings and stayed at a hotel.  Did that really happen?  I think so



Now I'm at Rockman's it's really happening I think….


But Monday is a professional development and I will be in a whole new place again.   


What shall the safe word be?


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